A:

Looks like there are two issues to address.

The first item I’d like to address may not be an issue but it is something to think and/or possibly schedule a visit to your Gynecologist about. The pain you are experiencing at the beginning of intercourse is common for women who are just starting to become sexually active and usually subsides with time (if there are no other problems causing it). From the information you provided, it appears you have been sexually active for at least two years.

Some things to consider is if you are sufficiently aroused and/or lubricated at the start of intercourse. This is important to minimize damage to the vagina and to minimize pain. Do the best you can to avoid being rushed into intercourse or from participating in it when you really don’t want to.

Another thing to consider is for you to see your Gynecologist and make sure your hymen is not in the way or that there are no vaginal obstructions.

As for you lack of orgasms, I must ask more questions to get a better idea of what’s happening.

1. Are you able to have orgasms during masturbation?

If yes, Do you get close to orgasm during sex?

If no, What emotions are you experiencing during sex and during masturbation?

2. If you do get close to orgasm during sex, is the sex over before you get there?

Or does it not happen, no matter how long you are engaged in intercourse?

3. Are you able to have orgasms during oral sex or manual stimulation by your partner?

Or no?

You are welcome to take this information and let it guide you to your own conclusions or you can respond to this, answering and providing more information and we can continue to try to understand and solve your problem.

Sincerely,
Tressa!